I have been to Retrouvaille and it changed our lives. We went from being a snippy, angry couple, to a happy, laughing couple. It didn't all change at the weekend. But the weekend was the turning point. The way they teach you to talk to each other works. It is sad how poorly equipped we all are for marriage, and how simple the changes are that we need to make. But as well educated as my H and I are, we had to be taught how to get along.
There is a thread in Piecing called "Retrouvaille means change" where there is a lot of information about the Retrouvaille experience. The success rate that I have heard is 80% are still together 5 years after going through the whole program. The whole program consists of the weekend and 6 follow-up or Post sessions. But don't worry about that now. Just commit to the weekend to begin. At the end of the weekend they will explain about the Post sessions and you can decide then whether or not you will continue. We did every step of the way. We enjoyed every minute of it. As we went week to week, we saw results. We felt safer talking to each other. We agreed on more things, we started to even feel love feelings again. It was like turning the clock back 20 years on our relationship. Not every couple from the weekend went to the Post sessions. I would say about 60% of the weekend couples continued through the entire program.
