Newbie with almost WAW - Need Advice

[Sleepy]

I agree with Sandi. The day I found out about my wife's A, I could hardly function at work. People wondered what was wrong and I confided in them even though I told them to stay quiet. This was the WRONG thing to do! Words spread like wild fire.

My W says that we might have been able to work through things if this information wasn't out. Now she wants to walk.

It was the wrong thing to do because it was self motivated. If I had the attitude that I wanted to protect my spouse I wouldn't have said anything. I spilled my guts now I have to deal with the carnage it caused.