She's testing you again. And now is NOT the time to back down. You will discuss the R when YOU are ready. And right now, you aren't. If she can't live with that, she's going to do what she is going to do. And you have NO CONTROL over her or her actions.
Why is she in such a rush to force YOU to take her back? What have YOU done wrong?
Expect her to get angry, ugly and maybe even say some (more) hurtful things. Those are all good signs b/c they mean (a) you are doing the right thing and (b) she still cares.
You want to convey calmness and stregth. No matter what she does. Get used to saying "I'm sorry you feel that way." You aren't agreeing she is right, just that you understand and validate her feelings.
Remember, words are cheap. It's actions, actions from HER you want to see. And, I can't speak for Old Pilot, but I would imagine that's what he meant in his post to you.
