Another Sad Deployed Soldier/Dad

[Another_Soldier]

She has said that she has to work on her right now and that that there is nothing going on and i shouldn't worry so much. She does not understand that it hurts me that she would even have a second thought about contacting this OM and still did it.
I sent the OM an email and this is what i said to him:
OM I hope you read this and PLEASE reply to me. I just have to know how long you have been talking to W. Has it been since you have been back in Town. I need to know to come to some kind of resolution for myself. Who contacted who first, are you still talking to her?

This was his reapons:
Listen ok...it's not what you think...I know what's going through your head at this point...There at it again...It's nothing like that....I've been back in Town since May....I never spoke to your W until about a week or so ago....I didn't want to speak to her infront of everyone at the bar an I didn't want to go over to her job an speak to her because I didn't want people to start talking and get things started about her and I that wasn't true....So she came into the resturant to pick her food one day I saw her an I told her that I had something to say to her....I gave her my yahoo IM cuz I'm always on there...an I told her if she gets a chance to IM me cuz there where sum things I wanted to say to her....She said I'll think about it cuz I shouldn't be talking to you at all....Then when I was in England last week she sent me an IM asking me what I had to say....and at that point I explained to her how sorry I was for what happened that it was my fault for the things that happened between her and I because I knew she was married an I shouldn't have been even talking to her like that....an that I hope I didn't do anything to cause problems in her marriage.....Then she told me that her marriage was better than it had ever been.....that you and her where alot closer....So I said I'm happy for you and him an I told her to tell you that I was sorry for what I had done....That I don't expect you to forgive but I am sorry.....Then she said that she wasn't mad at me that it was just stupid an should have never happened an I agreed with her.....

I want to believe but not sure what to do. Going to have patients and try not to beat myself up.