Another Sad Deployed Soldier/Dad

[Another_Soldier]

OK just got off of messenger. Thank you for your advice so far! I am trying to follow but it is hard. Don't know what to say I got to talk to the kids they are doing pretty good playing with all of their new Xmas toys.

I didn't try to bring up R but i guess it came up anyway after the kids got off of skype. I only told her that I have to be healthy for me and what is best to take care of me and the kids even though you are 10000 miles away. I told her that she is aware of the boundaries i have set and would not tollerate any variations of what i wanted. I told her that I would not share her with anyone that i am her husband and the only Man in her life. There should be absolutely NO contact with the OM in any way shape or form. She knows that i will find out no matter what she tells me so she has "assured me" that there is nothing going on. I will be patient and just let the cards play out. I tried to keep my answers to her short and shorter that her statements. I know one good thing is that she would never try to keep the kids away from me and tells me i am a good husband, father, and provider and she loves me very much.

I am sooooooo freakin confused right now. I feel like i don't know what is going on from 1 min to the next.