I read through your sitch. It's funny how our situations are so similar and our reactions were exactly the same. I'd be interested on how the Retro weekend went. I think my W might be willing to go through with it.
Me:49 W: 41 Kids=D14/D14/S10 Married: 15 Together: 16 Bomb: 08/26/09 Currently: separated but in the different houses.