Newbie with almost WAW - Need Advice

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Hi Awoken, thanks for the input on my plan! As you can see, still working on the exposure piece of the puzzle...

1. PMA, PMA, PMA! If I find this challenging, may have to start ADs

I'm using the book "learned optimism", and it's been pretty helpful so far.
The AD's take at least two weeks before they start to have any benefit; maybe you should start them anyway?

Read Learned optimism back in November and can't say enough good about that book. I think it helped me to generate the burst of PMA that I had back then.

2. Continue to work on positive changes in my life, especially the ones that I know that I need and that she has placed on the laundry list. Try to regain some of her respect.

3. Start going to MC, let her know that she is welcome to come and let her know each time I go. Continue with my therapy for depression.

Both of these sound like they might be about her. I suggest you work on the changes in your life that think YOU need to make...snip...

Again, if she is not interested in MC, why tell her? I'm worried it just going to be part of a guilt-trip for her.

I have to admit that a lot of the changes that she wants to see are things that I want to see and are long overdue. I tell her all the time about losing the weight and never do so she sees me as all talk and no action. I must show action at this point! Your advice on the MC is well taken.

5. Learn to love myself, regain my self respect. Set goals for self improvement. Continue to read self-improvement books

Part of your plan/goals is to "set goals"? I dunno if this is you or not, but I found I've spent too much time reading self-help books, and not enough time doing stuff to help myself.
I suggest you write down or post exactly what your goals for self-improvement are.

I quite possibly have an addiction to self help books right now..LOL For now, they are giving me some hope that things will improve for me no matter what happens with the M but you are right that at some point, I have to just get out there and start living my better life.

9. GAL. I am really bad about this.

Yes, this is hard! Imagine what you WANT out of life (I'm not talking about saving your M), and go after it...daily.
Don't make GAL decisions based on what will impact your W, or on what will save your M.

I really do know that it has to be for me, but at this point, it is hard to not have the hidden agenda tucked away somewhere in the back of your mind!

Sandi gave you such great replies, so I'm just pitching in here. Let me tell you, I'm replying here as part of my own GAL plans. I'm not very social, and participating in the forums here is a big step outside my comfort zone.

I wish you the best, Junco!

Me too my friend! I tend to be very shy and reserved until people get to know me. Posting on this board has been a good step for me. Let me know if you come across any good resources for becoming more outgoing socially - I am reading some books on that now too as part of my improvement plan.

Thanks - Junco