Just want my H back

[avermont]

Hi HHH-

I just finished reading your whole thread.

I guess the old timers have seen this story a million times. It is quite weird reading someone else post the same feelings/conflicts/fear/cycle that I am going through. I guess it is a universal experience.

Things I picked up on that will hopefully help me:
operating out of fear: if I do X, is that going to cause him to do Y?
And pearl saying: he has already LEFT! how much worse can it get?
Detaching for ME, not for hope of "getting him back."

Oh, and all the rest of the hard and truthful things that the pros told you--and have been telling me.

I'm sorry these last few days have been hard for you. The holidays make it all worse.

Do I understand that you are making the big move to SF? I think that's good. New place, new co-workers, whole new start to your new wonderful life.

Thanks for putting your story out there so others could learn from your experience.

Best in the new year--