I'm just saying, this stinks to high heaven. Just look at the email with reference to "Babe." Come on.
I'm not slapping you. But you have to be willing to confront the brutal reality of your situation. And you have to know what you're dealing with (need a map) before you can attack it (get where you want to be).
This is not going to be solved quickly. So, you need to be patient.
Right now, you are probably hurting like hell. That sucks. Deal with it and get those emotions out. Then, pick yourself up and keep moving with a plan. Others will chime in, but I posted what I thought some initial steps should be.
Is OM M'd? Doesn't sound like it. Is he living at his parents' home?
You W is going to have to agree to a transparency plan (you get full access to everything - her cell phone, email, etc.) But that comes a little later.
