Actions speak louder than words. What actions make you believe these words are true? Don't get reeled in by words. They are just a test to see where you are at. To make sure that she still has control of you. Is that what you want?(her control of YOU). How did things change so fast since yesterday? You said goals for week were no R talk. Did you forget your goals?
You read the detachment threads. I think you know what you have to do.
Very wise advice. YOU control how and when this thing plays out from here. So, if you don't want to talk about something, you don't. "W, I hear you, but I'm just not ready to talk about that right now. I'll let you know when I'm ready. I have a lot to consider." And leave it alone. She can't MAKE you talk about something you don't want to. Take back control about this.
You need to expect more tests from her. More venom, anger. And that's actually a good thing b/c it shows she's likely still interested. People don't get upset about things to which they are indifferent (i.e, don't care).
And lo and behold, you stood up to her and what did she do? SHE APOLOGIZED TO YOU.
Taking back control means you are earning back her respect. She may not like what you're doing, but she will RESPECT it. And that is a critical component to her loving you.
Stay the course. You are just too busy to have long discussions, or ANY R discussions. If you simply cannot get out of a R talk, just listen, validate and tell her you will have to hink it over b/c you just don't know how you feel right now.
