Lost,

You are welcome and please don’t apologize.

We all need the reminders even those of us much further down the road. We just don’t want to see you, or anyone get stuck.

The same responses, well you get them, because they are what we have learned to be the truth.

One of the hardest things for me with all of this, is I too am a fixer of sorts. I am a natural caregiver. So for me it was very difficult to not want to try something, anything, to fix this and make it better. Better for who, at the beginning I would have said H, but now I have to admit that it is better for me. As I understood more of what I was dealing with, and I started “fixing” myself instead of worrying about him, girl, it was leaps and bounds.

Yes it is hard to not “fix” for him. It is hard to say, his choices and his consequences. Because I know they could have been different. But the bottom line is, if he wants things fixed, it is up to him to do that work.



"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox