She lost her loving & emotional connection to me after years of suffering the pain of my rejecting her. It still has not come back and she physically withdraws and her entire body tightens up when I touch her or make physical advances.
She sees how I've changed in the last year but still does not believe it is real and permanent. She thinks it's a ploy to just get her back because she thinks it all out of my fear of losing her.
Her hestitation to be open about her feelings is due to her fear that I will get angry and retaliate and use our son to get back at her. She knows how aggresive I can be in my business dealings and it scares her. She's affraid of me.
She wants to start a new relationship with me but needs the space without seeing me day & night. I said I would not leave the house & did not want her to but it was her decission and time to start being responsible for her decissions.
She has taken little action to improve herself or our MR. I said that my patience from the last year is growing thin and it's time for her to put on the BGP and get on board so we can solve this together.
She wanted to know how she can get inboard. My suggestions and she agreed to all: Continue MC, Retroville, read books and articles.
She needs MWD's article on Forgiveness since she said she will never forgive me for my years of rejecting her.
I also thought the 5LL would be a good start.
Please reply with other comments, observations and suggestions.
Much thanks and the warmest NY greeting to all, NOMAD
Last edited by NOMAD; 01/02/1002:47 PM.
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