Newbie with almost WAW - Need Advice

[sandi2]

The thing about exposure is you have to realize that if the WAW goes back to her LBH, then why would she want to ML to the man who exposed her at work, to friends, and to family? I know most answers would probably be that "she" did that by putting herself in that position. But, thinking like a WAW in an A, I believe the LBH must be very careful and think that through long enough that he feels that is the only thing he can do to turn things around. Do not do something that will come back and haunt the MR later, if reconciliation comes.

There have been two or three LBH's just within the past few days who have made that decision. One, has just stopped posting and I don't know what happened. One said he was going to give wife the two weeks notice last night unless we didn't think he should. Well, that wasn't enough time for the board to respond...on a holiday night, especially. Besides, he had just come on the board and only had a couple of pages of posts. That's not long enough to gather all the DB information one needS, IMHO. I didn't think he had enough information about the "how-tos" and was still waiting to talk to his lawyer, etc. He had what seem to be conflicting intel. IDK why I'm telling you this, except it really bothers me. I had only recently changed my mind and the exposure technique.....and I am in no way one to give advice about how to do it, but found myself with the last couple of LBH's trying to tell them. They need to talk to a man who has actually done this. Not me.

So, I am very concerned....about all of this. I take the advice we give as serious b/c it affects lives. I don't feel that you are the type that will be implusive and do something like that without fully thinking it through.

Anyway, guess I just needed to talk about it.