loving distance

[courageous wife]

Thankyou Lotus and RW for responding! Lotus, I will have to catch up on your sitch. RW, I started yours from the beginning (took me a couple of days to catch up) but it really gave me hope as I do feel ours are very similiar. The younger kids S14 and D11 were told by the Dad that "Mom and Dad aren't getting along and he wasn't coming home for awhile and that he wouldn't answer his phone because he didn't want to talk to me so for them to leave a message and he would call them back". As far as I know, H's S27, doesn't know anything about our "issues". I think S27 is old enough I could tell him what is going on but afraid my DIL will never forgive H. She is very headstrong and doesn't get along with S27's Mother because of past issues.

I don't know how far back you have read my sitch but this is not the first A that H has had. First one was in 2001 and very brief, but he left us after for about a month after he found out I had searched his truck. I expect he will mad for quite some time but back then, he lived by himself and got lonely, now he is with HER so he won't be lonely. I am sure that H is staying with OW. She lives in a town about 35mi from here and see he used bank card to get gas in that town yesterday.

Kids and I have plans to go shopping so they can spend their xmas money and we will have lunch with their favorite Uncle (my brother) so will keep keeping busy and reading your sitch's cause any encouragement will help!!!