Thanks for all the Christmas wishes guys. I hope everyone has had a good holiday so far, regardless of your sitch.
Work has been crazy busy and this is the first real chance I've had to get on and check in.
Christmas was EXCELLENT. W loved the gifts I got her, especially the little set I picked up at Victoria's Secret.
Then W gives me my gift. A 46" HD T.V.! HOLY CHIT! Things sure have changed in the last 6 months!
We spent Christmas Eve at MIL's, Christmas morning at MIL's, afternoon at my brother's. And it was GOOD. While at my brothers house, my two brothers, my 3 son's and 2 of my nephews played cards for a couple hours and W spent the time in another room with my mom and great niece and nephew...It's frickin amazing that just 2 years ago she wouldn't even go to my mom's house on Christmas day.
Kids got all they wanted....man do we spoil them...but WTF? What is Christmas for if it's not for your kids and family?
Tonight we're going to "our" bar/grill. They're having a New Years party, band, dinner, etc. W is excited. We went there for dinner last night and W asked the Mgr if people had said whether they were dressing up or not and she said some people have said they're going casual and W said she was thinking of dressing up. Mgr told her she should so W is going to. WooHoo! She looks so frickin hot in that little black dress. Of course, S17 isn't so excited that he has to be our designated driver, but he'll get over it. We've told him that he can have some friends over to the house so he's not out driving on amateur night which also is good as the place W and I are going is only 3 miles away, 2 of which are roads in our neighborhood.
That's about it. Hope everyone has a GREAT NEW YEAR.
H4U.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
NYE was fantastic. W was the most beautiful woman in the room. It was a smallish party, probably only about 25 or so, live band, dinner, open bar, but she looked smokin hot in her little black dress and I told her that many times. We danced, laughed, talked about moving south when we retire. Came home and finished the night off in a most excellent manner .
Of course, there's always something that pops up to throw a wrench into my mood. W got up yesterday morning and came down stairs. She is heading outside to smoke and looks in the little black purse she took to NYE for a lighter and pulls out a book of matches from some place in New Orleans. She reads the cover to me and I just look at her. She says "someone must have given these to me" as she's never been to N.O. WONDERFUL. OM is from just outside N.O. Wonder where she got them?
I think she realized after she said it just what I was thinking and she got rid of them quick, but it threw one of those nice triggers into a wonderful night and morning.
I recovered from that pretty quickly as Penn State beat frickin LSU (OM is a huge LSU fan). W was cheering for PSU right along with me, so that was good. And then our beloved Buckeyes beat Oregon when everyone picked Oregon to win the game. W fixed pork and sauerkraut for dinner which was excellent. So the day turned out pretty decent.
Going to do a little manly home repairs today so that'll turn W on. I was going to go spend the night at my brothers tonight and then go on a hike with him in the morning, but I think I'm going to pass as I don't feel like making the 2.5 hour drive this evening and then the 2.5 hour drive home tomorrow. I know I'm passing up a good GAL activity, but just not in the mood to drive, especially with the snow falling in N. Ohio. Going to see if W wants to do something to finish out the weekend on a good note instead.
Hope everyone had as good of NYE as we did.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
What an excellent evening! It's helpful to me to hear how you get through the triggers, it really is a "mind over matter" thing isn't it? You choose to get past it. A question... when you mentioned deciding not to go on the hike... do you still struggle with being away from W and worrying about trust issues? Or are you past that? H and I have not spent much significant time apart since he ended the A and this seems to be initiated as much by him as me. I am wondering how that will be for me the first time something like that comes up. Does that get easier? Just wondering...
