Still Wondering How To Handle Things!!

[Sanderika]

Hi Lin,

Thank you for the good wishes, sorry to hijack kissak....

I am faced with another court appointment on 2/5/10. The judge here will not postpone a 4th time. She has demanded we either move forward with the D or she will dismiss this case.

I want so very badly to save my marriage....I think about it and my H 24/7. I am hurting right now......

My H was very attentive for several weeks this fall....

He is still with OW. He only spent 2 1/2 hours with us on Christmas. He did not buy me a gift this year. I heard just last night that he spent New Year's with OW as well.

I gave my H gifts for the first time in several years. He was appreciative. I sent him a txt last night: I want u 2 have a Happy New Year. He replied: Same to you

I am sooooo sad and down. I do not think my marriage can be repaired. I am desperate for suggestions.

My H was away on business for almost three weeks prior to Christmas and he texted and/or call me everyday....he kept saying he missed me, couldn't wait to see me and then our holidays have been one huge disappointment for me and son.

Maybe you could stop buy my thread and help me.

Our datelines are similar except that you got your marriage back on track after three or so years and I am still struggling to save mine at almost 4 1/2 post bomb.

Thank you for offering encouragement. The postponing stage has been ongoing now for almost a full year. I wonder why....if H is not making more effort to recommit.

Sanderika