Well done for not losing it completely (())) for all the frustration too.. Great idea to turn off the phone and when you turn it on again, why dont you delete all his messages rather than read them as other wise it will be turning the key again. And if he refers back to them at any time, deep breath and sweetly say "sorry I deleted them, whilst Im totally responsible for our son, I like to keep stress to a minimum so thought it wise not to read them"

On the boundary front, one I'd definitely be going with is that he WILL NOT see his son under the heavy influence of alcohol or drugs.. Just one little tip dont change what you do with your son to suit your husband, he doesnt deserve that at the moment, you dont have to make things awkward for H just say you want consistency for little one. One sentance I used a lot when H was still foggy was, Im not being awkward Im just looking after my own mental and emotional health as that is very important to me!
Certainly getting a selection of preset sentances that you can use when you cant think of anything to say was my saving grace!

So your H has now gone back to MIA I like that I used to describe my H as going AWAL lol! Now get some serious ME and ME & S time, one nice thought is that whilst S will probably forget that H left at this time he will never forget the lovely Mum time he has had, so make sure this time is full of nice memories for him, then when he is a teenager he wont be able to use "my father left me" as amunition lol!

I hope by the time you read this the 24/48hr brain space will have kicked in and you will be feeling a bit more relaxed!

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W 47
H 47
M 24
T 30

Once lost but now found and happily married again!