Bunny, listen real carefully honey, I only have a minute. You can't offend DQ. So quit worrying about it. And for God's sake, quit apoligizing and just do what she says. There is a reason people come into your life. For some reason, you found the DB Boards. It's time to save yourself, Bunny. love, hugs and all that other good stuff, Goldey p.s. Why is everyone up so late tonight?
Just stopping by to say.. "Hi" and I know you can handle this.
I'll share an analogy... I'm a former science teacher please bear with what some could construe as the 'gross' factor.
When you get a bad cut or scrap, to the point it scabs over... have you ever thought about how that process works?
Those cells that are left behind.. kick into overdrive making copies of themselves to fill in the hole of the cut.
However, those new cells (the scab) don't look exactly like those smooth epithethial cells of the skin.. they are rough, bumpy, red.. pretty ugly stuff..
made using red blood cells, white blood cells, etc.. pretty much what ever they can get their sticky little cell membrances hook onto in order to interweave a temporary patch.
Eventually as the healing process continues and the epithethial cells continue making new smooth skin cells, the area around the scab starts to itch, it becomes uncomfortable, sometimes REALLY uncomfortable...and it will start to flake away as the new cells grow in around & underneath it dislodging the old ugly cells.
Given enough time.. the location of the wound is undiscernable.. with large enough wounds some of the old patch stays behind as scar tissue & even occassionally no matter how long it's been, these will itch... a reminder to the depth of the wound.
I pray for patience as you learn how to repair your wounds and manage the itching & uncomfortableness of the healing process.
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
I do have the following guys all waiting for their turn: Jim, Dave, Derron, Norm, Doug, Jeff, and others... but they're all on hold. Some sent messages: We can just talk if you want...
OK, how many believe them?? Raise your hand, or raise your... ummm, never mind....
Humor is an excellent way of taking control of a situation. How can something be as daunting or scary if we laugh at it? It takes the power out of it.
Back when H dropped the bomb, I gave him my own secret nickname: Phantom of the Opera. He was hovering around all gloomy faced, just miserable and dramatic. Every time he showed up that way, I inwardly referred to him as P of H, and it helped me detach from his doofus-y behavior. Another lady on here thought of her alien H as Woodtick. Anyway, laughing about it made it hurt less and let us take charge of our lives and situations.
You sound so much better. It's time to live for yourself and find out what YOU want.
Made your list of positive qualities yet?
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
Oh, I have a bunch of nicknames for my H. One is the International Man of Mystery since every thing he does is cloaked in intrigue. It cracks me up whenever I say it! Laughter helps us keep a grip on sanity,SpyBunny.
