Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[Gnosis]

What on earth am I freaking doing?

NOT LISTENING

Go back, READ and understand everything written to you in the last two days. The answers are there.

[Super Girl]

I hope that she didn't play me, and is out doing whatever it is she was doing-laughing at me, and the way she manipulated me into her heart again.

I hope she didn't play you too, but I think she did.

Why hasn't she contacted me?

Probably because she played you.

[SoldierDad]

Gnosis,

2x4 accepted and understood.

I just gotta get back to what I was doing. Whatever happens, happens.

Time to stop wondering about what my W is doing/thinking.

Time for me to stop analyzing all of that.

Gotta move on...

[Gnosis]

SD, I know it's not easy. I can sympathize and empathize with you. Patience is the most difficult thing to have when our mind is flying at Mach 2.

Find a way to divert your attention. GET BUSY. Exercise. Volunteer for extra duty.. anything to keep your mind occupied with other problems.

[SoldierDad]

Gnosis,

I am. I really need to get busy. I just wish I could turn back the clock.

I want to do the work. I do.

[Gnosis]

One more thing... if and when she calls you, keep the conversation SHORT. Be polite, calm and confident. DO NOT SHOW the doubt and suspicion flying around in your mind.

If she pushes for R talk or something like that... listen, validate and avoid sharing your thoughts. Best thing is to cut it short,
"Sorry, I wish I had time to get into this but I've got to run."
"I've only got a minute before I need to report for some extra duty."
"I'm not sure how I feel about that, let me think about it and I'll get back to you." .... then don't
"I'm fine but very busy."
"I've got a lot of work to catch up on, we'll speak later..."

You're very busy. More important things to take care of at the moment. THIS IS YOUR TACK FOR THE NEXT FEW DAYS UNTIL YOU SETTLE DOWN.

[TrentC]

I just wish I could turn back the clock.

I've said that more than once also.

I want to do the work. I do.

That's good, because that's what will save you. Godspeed.

[SoldierDad]

Gnosis,

Ok, you said to cut our talk short. In the past, she has brought up that we never talked about our problems-just swept them under the rug etc. I think, she will say something to the effect of: See H, this is what you do, when we need to talk about our M, you just cut and run-not sure how to address that-thoughts???

Thanks for the advance tactics.

I will do as told. I want to do whatever it takes to get my life back on track-as well as my M.

Oh, and she usually doesn't initiate R talk. well, lately at least. It just seemed as if she was in denial about her issues, but steadily reminded me of what I had done to hurt our M.

[Gnosis]

Here's something else for you to do: Read your entire thread and make notes of all the advice given to you. Take the questions you had and write down the different answers received. Summarize everything and post it here for us to see.

You've probably asked the same questions about six times today. This will be a good exercise for you to ground yourself and regather your thoughts.

That should keep you busy for the rest of your day. In the mean time I'm going to try get back to sleep... LOL. Speak to you later and I pray God give you some peace of mind.

[SoldierDad]

Gnosis,

Get some well deserved rest my friend.

Thanks again for the advice. I will do the work.