I exposed my H's affair to our 3 kids when they were 23, 21, and 17. I felt that they needed to see what happens in a marriage because they all have their own significant relationships. They took sides in the conflict; they were all on my side. And they told their father what they thought. in fact, my oldest son called the OW and told her to leave his father alone. My kids showed their father that even if he didn't care about our marriage, they did. I think it made a big difference in his interest in reconciling.
