Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

All,

any thoughts on why W had/has a change of heart about our M?

I know mind reading isn't possible, but honestly, what happened in 2 and a half days to completely change her attitude?

Did I push to hard trying to get her to acknowledge the A? Did I push too far by talking about it too soon?

Is staying dark going to get her to change her mindset?

I dunno why I read so much into it. I thought she would have contacted me today-after a cool down period. Stupid Soldier...

[Super Girl]

I actually don't think she had a change of heart. She's up to something IMO.

[SoldierDad]

SG,
I would appreciate your thoughts on this. What do you think she is up to? Because I am clueless.

I really believed all we talked about was GENUINE. I think I know that side of my W, and I just felt the sincerity in all she said.

I don't know how to feel about what happened between W and I. I want to feel positive but I am afraid now that she had ulterior motives.

Why would she open up to me like that-cry and hold me, and tell me that she wanted to work on our M, but now is dark? What on earth happened? I am so confused this morning.

I dunno-I could just be stupid too...

[Super Girl]

Considering all she has done to you, I don't think a switch flipped in her head and made her want make it all better.

For all we know, she could have been fighting with OM. She might have been texting him about what she was doing with you.

Maybe, she couldn't have Mr. Right (OM), so she settled for Mr. Right Now (You).

Maybe she wanted to throw you off your game, knowing full well you'd fall for it. She'll get full control of you again, and you are overseas for several months. She may have wanted to regain the status quo.

We have no way of knowing what is going through her mind.

I know how badly you want your family together, but if you jump right back in without any work done by her, you'll be right back her in a very short time.

You need to slow down and step back. Her actions are more important than her words. The fact that she hasn't called you, speaks to me.

[SoldierDad]

What on earth am I freaking doing?

I am a mess right now.

Gotta get a grip.

This isn't as bad as I am making it out to be-is it? I mean should I have any hope after what has happened?

[Super Girl]

Why would she open up to me like that-cry and hold me, and tell me that she wanted to work on our M, but now is dark? What on earth happened? I am so confused this morning.

Because you were getting too stong and confident for your own good. She needed to put you back in your place.

It's working too, isn't it?

[SoldierDad]

Ya,

I thought about that too. I really thought she would have contacted me by now.

I hope that she didn't play me, and is out doing whatever it is she was doing-laughing at me, and the way she manipulated me into her heart again.

I have so much going through my mind right now.

Why hasn't she contacted me?

[SoldierDad]

SG,

I can't ALLOW her to put me in my place. That is my decision, and mine alone.

Why am I pining over this crap?

Do I honestly believe that she is sitting around thinking the same things I am?

I would give anything to know if she was sincere in any of what she said, but now I am thinking the fog cleared just enough for her to reel me back in, damage me, and then go right back to what she was doing before.

[Super Girl]

Yes, you do need to get a grip. You should remain cautiously optomistic, but you are wanting to resolve this too fast. Slow down.

If you jump back in head first after what SHE has done to YOU, then YOU are nuttier than a squirel's turd.

She hasn't earned you yet. You deserve better.

[SoldierDad]

The problem is, I want to "fix" our M, and get on with our lives.

It's not that I want to just forget everything, I just want to move forward and start the healing and repair process when I get back in March.

I still can't figure out why she is dark? Wouldn't it be beneficial for her to maintain as much contact with me to see what I am doing as far as the D goes? I dunno, I just would like to hear from her, what her plans are for our M.

When/how do I address that with her?