What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Sleepy]

All,

Thanks for chiming in. Although it was a tough morning, I think we made some headway. She knows I’m not afraid to go through with a divorce and I sense some indecision on her part. Like wonderful said, there are trust issues on both sides to take care of and this will take some time.

My W felt depressed today and didn’t want to go out for her run. She had tears in her eyes. I put my hand on her shoulder and told her “just go, you’ll feel better once you get it over with”. Then she went....12 miles in the cold and ice. Brrr, she’s so tough.

Lotus, I looked at the website for Retrouvaille and showed it to my W. She looked at it too. The first thing she said was “I don’t want to blow a whole weekend” but then retracted her statement and now remains uncommitted. There is one in our hometown so no travel is necessary.

When she returned, I ordered some Chinese take out and we ate at the table as a family. We all talked together as a family and it was pleasant. I thought it went well.

While she was gone running, I went out and rented the movie “The Hangover”. I heard that this movie was really funny and we needed some levity tonight. I thought this would be a good icebreaker. It did not disappoint. We were both cracking up laughing the entire time. Laughter is the best medicine.

I don’t know. I guess it will just take some time. I am on call tomorrow and most likely will be working 24 hrs straight. Maybe some time away will be good.

I’m not going to mention anything more about the trip or what we discussed today. I guess I will try to just let all that go, and chalk it up to another moment of weakness.