You HAVE to let the slight stumble go. A slip up, but not a fatal mistake.
I understand you are hurt/feel used. Understand that what's really going on is fear. Fear based on an unreasonable belief (that you've just blown everything - financially, custody, visitation).
I can hear you working yourself up again. Take a breath, get rid of the panic and think it through.
-You haven't blown it. The fact is she has still done things in front of the boys that will NOT help her case. And even if she hadn't, she cannot take your boys away from you. -You don't KNOW she used you. -You can't control what she decides to do.
Think it through. Calmly. Change your thought from "I've blown it" to "I will be fine." Things are never as bad as we imagine they might be.
