Like a Handprint on my Heart...

[Gardener]

Hi, G-Woman.
Greetings from Gardener's New Year's Celebrations weekend in Hong Kong and Spain!
Um, I mean Connecticut

Bad joke. Sorry about your CC troubles.

Anyway, as always thank you for your support and insights. I answered you on my thread, but thought their wisdom and my gratitude belonged here in your home, too.

Hey G'Man..How many times have you texted, emailed, called, stopped by uninvited? Stop. Just Stop.StepD? The one, uninvited, two-hour "new baby" visit in November.Last night's email wish.
StepS? Three voice mails since same visit
You're in a world of hurt, looking for validation.And you're dealing with other people in a world of hurt not knowing which way is up. Yep, you're right.Ouch. Bingo.
The more you pursue your stepchildren, the more they'll believe what their mom says about you stalking her. The limited above actions I didn't think were pursuing. Maybe they were. STBXW only accused me of stalking once: supposedly watching her from across the pond outside her apt. In April. Totally, ludicrously not true.
Let. It. Go. Gone. Gone, friend. New year. New Me. Victim no more. Am going to get back in shape (in many needed ways). Going to get back to me. Will no longer - will no longer - allow things like this make me feel sorry for myself.
Reality hurts.It really really does.Yep. Well, some of it does.
But clinging onto the dream is worse.
That horse is dead.
That ship has sailed and sunk.Pull those punches, Gyps!
Just Stop.Done
Stop all communication with your stepchildren.Now done.
Limit any communication with your divorcing spouse.Already done. Going to limit even more. Going to stop 1/27.
Set your boundaries.Gonna work on them tonight. And write them down.
The stepchildren will reconnect with your son. In time they may reconnect with you.Let them come to you. Stop pursuing. Already on the same page as you
Find YOU, G'Man. Am gonna re-find me, friend
You're more than the sum of your blended family. Gotta re-find that, too. It was so good for so long that, yes, I let it - understandably -define me.That's what we Nice Guys do.
*hugs*hugs?Next time I see you, I'm gonna hug the hell out of you!
PS How was the date? January 28th, day after D. No longer considering a date, though. An introduction and an evening of music with company
Thanks, GGG (Gypsy, Genius, Gem)