P you are a good man. Same wavelenght. Yea it was the hardest night yet. And so many months later. I actually had a cry today driving home from hockey. I heard that song from the beginning of my thread. And just broke down. Good thing I was alone in the car.
I almost broke down myself earlier while watching TV. Won't go into the whole saga but it was a Xmas special of a program me and W used to watch. I stopped myself though. Haven't had a cry in a little while now.
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Those boxes will have to go one day. When you move on. You get rid of them. If you meet someone new... are you going to keep a shrine up there ???? No....
You misunderstand cutter. I have no intention whatsoever of having a shrine to her. None at all. The boxes sitting in the bedroom (3 now!?!) are all of her things that are in the house, things she has given me (t-shirts, cards, nik naks, photos) that I wanted out of here. I put them all in a box and they will now be going into the attic. I have two plans to do with the stuff in the attic - the stuff I am about to put up there will be getting burned on the day of the big D along with the wedding cake being eaten (that is now my big D cake).
The stuff that is in the attic that is personal to her (DVD's, videos, books, CD's photos etc.) will be dropped off at her parents one day when I'm down there. I'm not going to destroy her photographs and books. These are things that she had way before she met me and I have no right to damage them.
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And if that day comes and she says she does not want them. Then donate them. And what does not get donated gets tossed. Not your memories. Not your stuff.
That would require communication!
If she doesn't want them I will still drop the personal stuff off at her parents. She can then take responsibility for destroying it should she need to. I'm not taking that job on.
I'm going through the attic just now and I've found so much other stuff - music, DVD's, videos ... the list goes on and on and on. It upsets me to see her stuff there, to look at her old photos and to see her again. But then this whole thing upsets and confuses me so WTF is new.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
