I choose to think of it as letting them go, not throwing them away. If they come back, then it's up to us to decide if we want them back. If not, we haven't lost anything.
I think Gardener was saying that he is the one being discarded, not the other way around.
Oh. Sorry about that. Too much football watching today.
In taht case, Gardener, I don't have an answer, other than your STBXW has influenced them.
