I had thought long and hard about a keylogger but have been hesitant. If she found it, I think it would be a dealbreaker for her. Is this worth it?
You said you took away any easy way for her to communicate with OM. My school of thought about this is that if she wants to communicate with OM, she'll find a way without you knowing it. So, you've confronted her and outside of having solid proof, what could you do? If you cannot access her emails, etc., then I think to continue to snoop at this point, would be hurting you. JMHO. OTOH, don't be blind to the way she behaves, either. If she is taking her phone to bed with her....that would be a dead give-away.
As long as she is in contact with OM, her emotions will be up and down. Her rather quick mood change yesterday may have come b/c she could not communicate with OM. But, when it comes to EA's a bad mood usually means "good" b/c she's not been in contact. If she's been in contact with OM, then her addiction has had a "fix" and her mood will be up. Not good.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
