Looking for my new normal

[Gardener]

And, Bunny, Also, NO GIFTS FROM H. And not just because of all the obvious reasons pointed out by your friends on this forum.

There are ALL SORTS of disguised, benign-looking "nanny-cams", spy devices, cameras, listening devices, etc., available. This sicko probably knows about them.

I know I - and others- have said not to let him into your apartment. DON'T!
And if you do, or somehow "have" to, (repeat: DON'T!) don't let him out of your sight! Not even the bathroom. And bedroom.(especially the bathroom and bedroom). No hanging stuff on the walls for you, installing anything for you or moving or even touching furniture or belongings. Keep him away from your computer. Keep your phone on your person, not lying out somewhere. And if you have a land-line phone, don't let him near that, either, or disconnect and hide it when he comes in, which he should never do!

Do you have a trusted friend or relative who would be willing to come over whenever he's at (not IN) your place for the kids, or whatever? A witness by your side?

You are in the fight of your life - for your life. For you. Never, never forget this!