Moving back in

[DDogs]

DD you got the kahunas !!I feel that i can do the same , what the hell i aint got much to lose . Keep us updated and i will do the same , tommorow is going to be fun !!!

LOST:

my advice if any would be to just do it.. I found that my mind set followed shortly after my actions.. had to take a leap of faith that I didn't know I was doing... unfortunately, I had to get at a point where I felt I was in backed into a corner, before I acted. But knowing now what I didn't then, it is better to act and direct your own future than to sit back and just be handed one that someone else determined for you..

It's a double edged sword, It's good that I'm getting my act together, but, Yeah what I price I had pay to learn what I sould have learned earlier in the game..

It still is hard, I'm detatching at a quicker pace, but still have mental backslides....the key is seperating the emotional aspect out of your decision making...there ought to be a med for that...

Going home, getting ready to go out tonight and socialize... going to a hash trail run this weekend... should be a good busy...

[gettingthere]

It is so strange that i have had similar "symptoms" to what you experienced....i hope you stay strong and happy !! oh and enjoy you run !!

[DDogs]

UPDATE:

Happy New Years, folks...!

First an amusing note.. while getting ready to go out for the evening I showered, got dressed up and used all new shampoo/cologne/aftershave etc... I went into the family room and W was sitting with Ds.

I said good night to D11 and purposely leaned in past my w and kissed D11.. my other D10 comes running up to me saying good night also, jumps into my arms and then stops in mid sentence and says, "Wow, dad,,,you smell so nice!!, you look really pretty tonight"...

I know W got the message...

OK Soooooo....

What a difference.....
Went out to a New Years party after an invite from a lady I work with:

Fresh mindset,
my 180's always positive attitude,
acting as if
not worrying about W
listening before speaking.
taking care of my health
working out

RESULT---> much social interaction,,definitely noticed significant increase of the attention of the Women "drawn to me". My attitude changed = Women found that very attractive. My friend came up to me halfway thru the evening and whispered to me that all of her girlfriends thought that I was a really nice guy and that they really like hanging out with me.. what an ego boost..

Got home at 3am

The only significant change from 1 month a go to yesterday was my mindset. I am taking care of me, all the rest will follow...

Had coffee outside with the W this morning.. W initiated conversation for the first time in 3 days.. first question from her.. "How was last nite? My reply, "It was fun.." then I immediately changed the topic to the run I was going to do tomorrow. Told her I was leaving this afternoon and staying there overnight because the event is 3 hrs away.. W reply, "That's nice"...silence......

I did put 2 new pics on Facebook, 1 generic pic and 1 pic of me and my friend with my arm around her (she was THE most gorgeous lady at the party that evening). I know W looks at my FB page...

[DDogs]

UPDATE:

I have rock solid confirmation W has been searching the internet this morning looking for information on the race I am running in tomorrow.

She also has been checking out my facebook page and kept viewing the new pics I put up that show me standing next to my female co worker,,,,,,

[4luv]

keep it up DDogs!!! Looks like you have her interest without even trying to get her interest :-)

[Lotus]

Dog,

She may be doing research to build her case in divorce court. Beware of overdoing the new selfish attitude. In the long run that is a marriage killer by itself.

[gettingthere]

Hope that made you feel good and you enjoy tommorow !!

[DDogs]

Dog,

She may be doing research to build her case in divorce court. Beware of overdoing the new selfish attitude. In the long run that is a marriage killer by itself.

LOTUS:

Thanks for the heads up,, I had thought of that as well,,, I'm merely putting the illusion out. How she interprets it is her business. The co worker is just that, my coworker, period,, she just happens to be incredibly hot...I heard for a while about how W didn't love me, had no interest in me, was not attracted to me, wanted nothing to do with me.

I took the advice about the statement of wanting something that you can't have.. I'm trying to make the statement that "I'm not the sure thing", she can't have me...

[DDogs]

Hope that made you feel good and you enjoy tommorow !!

Thanks,, yeah it was good getting out and socializing with folks, the ego pump was great for the self esteem issues. I felt totally crushed and deflated when W dropped the Bomb...

I just showed myself that, regardless of what W said, I still am attractive to others, and I'm not the terrible person W claims I was...I do have value!

[gettingthere]

Keep going , i think the jealousy thing works , i guess with a few it might not , but i would say for most , women are more like pack animals they see OW interested then they get interested. On MANY levels too i guess.