Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[hoosiermama]

Ride of the Valkyries
Bravo, SP. Well done. I like symbolism and ritual--I think it accomplishes and expresses what is often far too deep for words (hence, I'm a Catholic, but that's neither here nor there). Nice ritual in the burning, the Viking funeral of your marriage and the sh*tfest year 2009. You are now free to move about the cabin of your life and fly this plane yourself instead of being continually hijacked to various and sundry places you never wanted to go.

I still don't have a good sense of what Mrs. SP is all about, and that's quite irrelevant since I'm some Stranger from the Heartland. But being a Medical Professional, I'm much more comfortable once I have a diagnosis to work with, and I'm calling hers Midlife Crisis exacerbating an underlying narcissistic personality disorder. With a possible side order of borderline personality disorder. Okay, I feel better now.

And this is all that matters, really:

Well, that was just okay. She'd been sad earlier that night; she was going to miss 2009, she said, because at least she had a whole family for part of the year. All she will have in 2010, she fears, is nothing.

And there it was -- my mission for 2010. To show Themselves that (to borrow a phrase from Hank Williams) if the good lord's willing and the creek don't rise, they will have a complete family in 2010 and every year after. That we, we three, not only can be, but are, a whole family.

Your girl-child is quite as articulate as my own, and that's both excruciating and helpful--because in that, they can tell you exactly what they need from you--whether or not it hurts like hell to hear. And you nailed it, bro. The 3 of you are a family. Themselves need stability. And while they will grieve the Family-as-they've-known-it, what they need--and will remember--is the stability and strength you can now give them.

You know what you need to do. And that's all that really matters--'cuz it's absolutely certain you can do it.

When the time is right, let Miss Someone in. You deserve to be loved. This may not be the time, but if she knows that I'll bet she might decide you're worth waiting for.