Pheonix. My suggestion would be to make no futher mention of the trip. Take time formulate a boundry then articulate the boundry. The less it relates to a specific event(like Pheonix) the less it is suseptible to seem controlling Actually, no matter what you say you will hear about how contolling you are. Remember that when chosing how to verbalize whatever your boundry you decide upon. The counter move will always be that you are controlling. So it maybe helpful not center it upon the Pheonix trip.I mean, your boundry should be broad enough to cover whether she is in Pheonix or at Starbucks. But also specific enough to let her know where the line of demarcation is. Does this make sense? Next trust.
