Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Michael,

reading that and knowing that my biggest fear is her running back to OM.

I just FEEL that she has already contacted him.

I was there, and she probably needed something to fill an emotional or physical need, and she came to me. I really wish I would have NOT slept with her.

She did mention something about she couldn't cheat on me-with me.

She told me a little about OM, how they would never work out because they were just "friends", and his family was a very successful family, and she didn't fit in. I don't know if she was looking at me to boost her ego or what, but listening to all of that really hurt.

My W is the type that needs attention to feed her ego-she relishes the fact that men flirt with her, and want to take her out.

This makes me very uncomfortable as you can imagine. I think this comes from something from her childhood, we talked about that, but she didn't really go into detail.

I just don't want to be weak around her, I want to be strong and someone she WANTS to be with.

I can't compete with OM as far as $$$ But I beleive that he is only interested in her sexually. Not sure though-he did buy her an ugly ring. I know my wife's preference in jewelry and the ring he bought her is NOT her style-she mentioned that as well.

What do I do about OM? I set the boundary about sharing her, and asked her, and she agreed to end it. How can I broach that topic with her-or do I just wait for her to tell me it's over?

It is such a messy sitch.