Wanted to further affirm that you have nothing to feel bad about. I doubt even your W knows how sincere she was when you spoke with her. She probably did really feel like she wanted to make things work, but when things get this complicated it's just plain not that simple to correct them. It's like having a horrible series of knots in a rope and thinking you can just pull them free.
I went through something like this with my W back in October. She came to be me devestated and broken and started spending the night with me sporatically. Turns out she was just using me as an emotional crutch because so much was crumbling around her. As soon as she felt stable again she went right back out with OM for good times and became a ghost in my life once more.
WAS's have a lot to learn and get through on thier own before they can sincerely reconcile I think. I'm notice my W become a little more clairvoyant each month but there's a lot of one step forward four steps back.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to save your M and your family. One of your best weapons is patience. You can't force her to do anything or be sincere.
Age: 28 Wife's Age: 28 Relationship: 10 Years (dated on and off) Married: Less than one year Seperated: 1.75 years, finally served with D 4/30/2011
