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[Gnosis]

It really is driving me nuts not knowing what she really meant by all of this.

And this is where you have to get off the mind-reading ride.

How will I ever know if she was sincere?

From her actions this point forward.

Can I still set the OM boundary, and expect her to comply?

Absolutely! But wait for more interaction from her. And don't forget, when setting a boundary you need to be able to enforce the consequences. At this moment you do not have that ability.
IMHO, now is not the time.

I dunno about this one. I want to BELIEVE her, but how on earth can I possibly do so after all of this.

I hear you. Have patience to see what she does is all you can do at this moment.

She mentioned that I need to trust her, that she is taking care of it-

OK, so sit back and watch a bit. Word will get back to you somehow on what she is doing. You will be able to determine her sincerity by her actions.

HOW DO I DO THAT?? How do I trust her at all?

At the risk of upsetting Lotus, you don't. Trust is earned. She is going to have to work on this.

How do I get her to understand that I don't trust her, but I want to?

Wait. The time is not right for this.

What should I expect next from her? I would of thought she would contact me by now.

Wait.

I dunno-I'm probably reading way too much into ALL of this.

Yup. This is why we wait.