Have I suggested Retrouvaille to you yet? You can find information on their website, www.helpourmarriage.org. It is a full weekend of learning effective communication with your spouse. It is not marriage counseling. That is, they guide you in doing all the work yourselves, just the two of you. No third party sitting in. This is done by teaching you the rules. If you both follow the rules for effective communication, called dialoguing, you don't need a referee. In most places Retrouvaille is only offered 4 times a year. but there are a lot of them in January and Feb., so now is a good time to look into it. Retrouvaille turned my marriage around. For those who complete the program, Retrouvaille is successful 80% of the time.
