Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[Gnosis]

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SD, with the new year starting I've got some old lumber lying around...

is there a way I can recover and move forward?

Yes. It's called assessment and damage control. Your L will inform you on the legalities when you speak to him next week. As for moving forward... you're doing that already.

Looking back, and thinking about it, I feel like she played me, seeing if she still "had" me. Why did I fall for that crap? I guess I want my M to work so bad-I thought she was being sincere.

Because this is what you wanted deep down inside. You wanted to believe that the last few weeks have all been a bad dream. You wanted to believe her. You wanted to believe in Santa Claus. You're not infallible.

What can I do to fix this?

You do what every soldier does... make the best of the situation and turn it around to your advantage.

God, I feel like I did when I first came here. Like I have made NO progress.

BULLSHIRT! You've made a ton of progress. You have your legal ducks in a row. You have set the ball rolling. You have handled yourself with strength and honor. Wassamatter witcha? Pull yourself together.

I havent contacted W since last night. I feel like such a fool. I can't believe I was that stupid to buy into her crap.

Good that you've been out of touch. You let her chase you. You don't tell her a thing, let her think everything is "just fine". Remember... the right hand mustn't know what the left is doing. DON'T REVEAL YOUR CARDS!!!! Let her think all is OK on the battlefront. Play dumb. You're going to avoid contact.

Let's look on the bright side of this:
1) when you call home to speak to the kids from now on... she's gonna let you!!! Isn't that GREAT!!! Woohoo! Priceless!
2) You got laid on your trip home. YEAH!

What is wrong with me? Why did I do that?

Bright side: Nothing wrong with you. You're a healthy male and have needs... you got your rocks off.

If I did anything to destroy my case legally, I am really going to be hurt and upset. I live in Texas, so don't know the consequences.

Neither do I. You'll get over it.

I will continue to do what I was doing BEFORE I got tagged.

Good. And don't forget that now that you're wiser... you're also craftier.

Somebody please explain to me what it is she wanted from all of that?

To blow smoke up your a$$ while she gets her ducks in a row.

I agree on the possess thing. She wanted to get some sort of control back-NOW I HAVE TO TAKE MY CONTROL BACK FROM HER!!!!

Duh! You've always had the control, there's nothing to get back.

I beleived her when she said she wanted to work on things, I BELIEVED THE WOMAN THAT DECEIVED ME.

So did Adam, Samson, Julius Caesar, Marc Antony... and many more. Turn your thinking around to this: You're in the company of GREAT men. See what a difference mindset makes?

I was in control when I was there too-I know she felt it.

And you're still in control. Your advantage now is that she doesn't know it...

I feel like I am starting over-well, I guess I am.

Nope. The foundations you have set are still solid. You just had a bit of bad weather and a wall fell down. You'll rebuild it, stronger and better this time around.

I promise before I do or say ANYTHING from now on, I will consult here first. I really don't want to mess up anything else!!

Do you honestly think every one here is perfect? Far from it. We've all screwed up and are going to continue to screw up. When we're in the thick of battle we make do with the resources we've got. We learn from our mistakes and try not to repeat them.

Don't focus on the negative.
Don't bury your head in the sand.
Look for positives and alternatives.
Look to make the best of every situation without deluding yourself.

We're here to provide tactical and strategic information. I've ever seen a textbook plan executed to perfection. Real life has hiccups and even the best laid plans can fall apart.

You're the one who is on the front-line.