1 thing YOU WILL DEFINITELY CHANGE or DO in 2010!

[Norm914]

Does that mean we get the TV remote control in exchange?

GIMA,

Spybunny is right. Put the toilet seat down and get the remote. Which do you use more often? Hahahaha!!

[Butterfly1]

I will

Get my life going - careerwise
Not take any abuse
Feel worthy of a loving, supportive relationship
Connect more with friends
Stay calm
Fear less
Let go what I can't control
See the positive

[givingitmyall]

Does that mean we get the TV remote control in exchange?

Only when you pry it out of my cold, dead hand!

[givingitmyall]

Does that mean we get the TV remote control in exchange?

GIMA,

Spybunny is right. Put the toilet seat down and get the remote. Which do you use more often? Hahahaha!!

Very good question Norm. I used to be able to say the remote, but as I get older....

[CityGirl]

Happy New Year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I posted a goal list on Kevin's thread.

But (and I am not sure if I should jinx myself or not) I am waiting to hear if I was accepted to a program I have been giving a ton of thought to for the past year. The program? A paralegal specializing in family law!

I am still not 100% sure I want to pursue it but I figured it wouldn't hurt to apply and see what happens. I already have a college degree so I am pretty sure I will be accepted, just not sure how I will manage to go to school full time and run my business and study. I will make it work if I decide to do it. I find myself fascinated by family law since my ordeal.

Thanks for welcoming me to the community. I don't post much on my own thread as not much is going on as far as my H goes. We have no contact and I like it that way! I do read many threads each day for continued inspiration... so, thanks!

[12bar]

I came across a great article by Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, called "get all the way in". A few things really resonated with me and I have included some of his quotes below:

"The new year is here and you’ve probably already made your list of new year’s resolutions. Here’s a suggestion for a resolution that might actually change your life – make a commitment to get all the way in to something for which you have been only showing up part way.

(snip)

Most of the people who show up at my office or sign up for my classes and seminars are suffering from the same problem – they are living lives of marginal commitment. Due to fear, habit, or self-limiting beliefs, they float along, doing the same old thing, magically expecting different results. This is the essence of suffering.

(snip)

I’m a big advocate of getting all the way in or all the way out. No marginal commitments, no half-hearted efforts, no avoiding the tough stuff, no half-a$$ing it. Over and over, I’ve discovered when I’m less than happy or less than successful or confused or stuck, it is because I’m not all the way in or all the way out.

(snip)

I am convinced that getting all the way in is the most courageous act we can make in any situation. It challenges us to act with integrity and love. It forces us to grow and become our best person. It gives relationships the opportunity to become all that they can be. It reveals the truth of any situation. It gives you the information you need when it is time to make a decision about getting out."


For 2010, I plan to Get All the Way In to:

- DBing as best as I can and trying to save my M

- eliminating unhealthy habits from my life

- losing weight

- learning to love myself

- becoming a more outgoing person

- letting go of attacment to outcome

- my career

- improving my finacial situation

Happy New Year to all!

Junco

[Lotus]

I like that. All the way in is important. Too much we think we can purchase anything. No effort needed.

[SmileysPerson]

The ONE thing I will CHANGE is this:

No more remorse-indulgence. It's not about her anymore; it's about me.

The ONE thing I will DO is demonstrate my commitment to self and mission and complete this list:

1. Finish my current book manuscript

2. Pitch and close a deal on the Great American Divorce Book (AKA, The Misadventures of Smiley's Person)

3. Complete the first of 3 planned action-adventure novels about a CID Warrant Officer in Germany in the 1970s -- airport trash that will (I hope) make SP some serious buckage -- and pitch to an agent

4. Finish another marathon

And above all:

5. Retain my mojo -- that's reTain (with a "t") and not reGain with a "g."

[Sleepy]

I will continue to listen to Robx and his and others advice on this forum. It has been the only thing that has worked.
I will help and support others on this forum with my knowledge as I become more educated in this process.

[Generosity]

Hey SP,

Sounds like you're back onto fully retaining...I have a feeling 2010 is going to be a successful one in part due to the commitment to your list.

"2. Pitch and close a deal on the Great American Divorce Book (AKA, The Misadventures of Smiley's Person)"


My neighbor, Cheri Arterburn, wrote a book, 'The Perfect Divorce', a few years ago along similar lines about her D.
It was published by BCC Publishing. Might be worth pitching them, it's my bet they would be interested.

Take Care,

Sunny

Oh, And I will do this;

"I will continue to listen to Robx and his and others advice on this forum. It has been the only thing that has worked."