Nothing is harder than seeing our children's sadness because of all of this. Seems like every time they came back from their mothers house I had to put mine back together. This lasted for 6 months or so. They seem to be doing better now.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
I know how upset you must be . My husband went out of town the day after halloween 2009 and over the phone he tells me we have to talk he hasnt been happy for a little while I worried the whole time he was gone , every time I would start to ask him about it he would say not till I get home , well he came home Nov.8 2009 and looked at me and I dont love you anymore . Its been years since I have loved you , but we have been intimate since he has moved out, someone please tell me how can that be!I dont hate myself for it I still love him I just want to understand how he can want to be with me when he says I made him unhappy
I haven't been posting much lately. I dont really feel qualified to give advice, as I have not been successful in my own sitch.
I haven't had a ton to update until now either. W has been out for 6 weeks. I have kept on with life. I have spent a lot of time doing fun stuff with friends and family. S has been with me about 1/2 the time. S and I have done a lot of fun stuff that she has missed out on. She didn't even seem to care at first. I have done a lot around the house and spent time with friends. I keep communication to a minimum with W. Only stuff regarding S for the most part.
W has calmed down a lot in the past couple of weeks. Much of the MLC type things have slowed or stopped. She doesn't seem to be dressing like a teenager when I see her (when S is exchanged). I think she has drastically reduced her involvement with her GF. (Her R with her BFF was over the top and a big problem in the past)
Christmas and New Years Eve were tough. She admitted they were tough on her too. This past week she made extra at dinner and passed it off to me when I came to get S one evening. She did the same with cookies another night. She even texted me last night to see if I wanted to come watch TV with her (one of the shows that we used to watch together started up again). ...I politely declined, but I called and chatted with her for a few minutes on the phone. I even picked up a few things for her at the store this past weekend. This is all so weird.
I still don't know where its going. I know she isn't really happy though. She called crying one night because she missed S who was with me. I said I was sorry. She said it was her own fault. I'm glad she sees that.
I'm at a point where a life together would be nice, but it is no longer necessary. We'll sees where it goes.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
Great to hear that you are doing well EB. It seems that she may be thinking of reconcilling. Keep GAL'ing and the confident PMA; it sounds like you are doing great!
