I disagree on the few nice guys succeed. What about Coach?
That tells me that you still do not understand where we are coming from when we use the term "nice guy". Coach was not a jerk, if that is what you mean.....but I do not recall reading anything about him having the passiveness that our description of "nice guys" have.
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I get frustrated with the boards because so many focus on busting the affair, busting the affair. What if there is no affair? And in any case, that again puts all your focus on W.
No....no....no. "You" are putting the focus on the W--or else you are not understanding the purpose of busting an A. I do not recall reading a single LBS stitch who came to the boards...who did not have all their attention on the WAS. The first thing we try to do is get their focus off of the WAS and onto themselves and how to improve their quality of life.
The largest difference in what the books teaches and the opinion amoung a lot of the board memebers does have to do with busting the A. If you don't want to bust the A and go on like you don't know anything....that's your business. However, the reason so many recommend busting the A is b/c of what they have experienced, but it is still up to you.
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My job is to get to the point where I don't care about her choices except when it comes to the girls.
Absolutely! Knowing what your job is--should be the best place to start.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
