Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Well, I am back "in country".

There is so much to tell-where do I begin?

The day before I am scheduled to fly, W sends me a text asking if I wanted to meet for a drink. I cautiously agree.

We meet in a very public restaurant/bar. I am looking my best, and she looks great when I see her.

We get a table in the bar, and it begins - tears, questions, spew, reaction to my questions-she constantly deflects.

We continue talking for a few hours, and she asks me to come over to the house. I agree, and I follow her home.

Once inside the boys were stunned, and started asking all sorts of questions. We told them we were just talking.

Well, we ended up sleeping together. Afterwards, we talked until the sun came up.

All of these emotions and feelings were going through my mind, and almost everytime I started to speak about the issues I had-she would change to what I had done.

It was difficult at best trying to talk about some of what has happened. Well, bottom line was-we agreed to do the work for our marriage-counseling-whatever it took. I felt pretty good about what we had discussed.

I set a boundary for her to end all contact with OM. She agreed, but as far as I know that has NOT happened. She said he is out of the country W his M. She said she would end all contact when OM returned. Not sure I beleive that.

Also, we both agreed to counseling and whatever else we needed.

Tonight, I called home and she immediately started telling me that she was bothered by what the boys were telling her about some things I had said/done etc. It just seemed like she did a 180. I think I recognize this as spew.

Then in the middle of our phone conversation tonight-she became angry, and hung up, and will not return my calls.

She doesn't seem ready to accept what SHE has done-but is so quick to lay out all of my faults and things I did in the past to help with the demise of the M.

I don't know what to do, I think I really screwed up, and am not sure what to do to get things back on track.

My friends, I want to get back on track, and save my M. Please help me.

Also, wanted to add, I thought it was strange that W got angry tonight-New Years Eve and all. I really want to call the house at midnight tonight-I had told her earlier that we would ring in the New Year as a family-and she thought that was great, but I don't think it is a good idea now.