The twilight zone and the OW

[Silver Fox]

Well sweet carolina sistah, let me chime in here. Don't let the others shame you into feeling bad about contacting OW. Yes, the general rule of thumb is to leave the OW alone, but each sitch is different, including the ages of all parties involved, the length of the marriage, and how smitten the WAH is with the OW.

Every cheating man's nightmare is the W and OW getting together and comparing notes. Yes he will be mad. I spent the first year of the bomb being "nice" and "understanding" and trying so hard not to make H mad. Where did it get me? H now lives 200 miles away with the Catbitch (as I so fondly call her).

The suggestions to deal with MLC can be head scratching sometimes and I think if you were on the Infidelity forum you would be hailed as a hero. Look up Gucci and Puppy Dog Tales for a different take.

Yes, you should act rather than react. Yes, you should wait at least 24-48 hours before responding to anything H throws your way. But I think you followed your gut here and you should stand by it.

When he confronts you with his anger say something like "I did what I feel was the right thing to do. I believe in you and I believe in our M but I will not tolerate continued disrespect".

As far as I've figured out - the only 2 absolutes in DBing are: Do not pursue and GAL your ass off.

Now step out of the picture and let the A follow it's natural, self destructing course.