I want to say Happy New Year to ALL of you, 2010 will be a GREAT year for all of us.
Happy New Year to everyone whose thread I've had the privilege of reading and participating on.
Happy New Year to everyone whose toes I stepped on and earned the title of "forum prick" LOL! Seriously I meant no one any harm/ill will, differing opinions are just that and I hope you have gained some ground in your respective situations.
Happy New Year to every WAS and every LBS, may you find the correct path for you regardless of what that means or where it goes.
I ask you to participate on this thread with at least one post, use this as a spring board into the new year, post your new years resolution, what you will definitely change or do in 2010 to move towards or maintain positive momentum in your respective situations.
I wish you all health & happiness, peace of mind, clarity of vision and some much needed rest for those with weary hearts who may still be feeling a little or alot of pain. I promise you, you will all feel some relief sooner or later when you allow yourself to heal.
I personally wouldn't be where I'm at right now in my own life if it wasn't for all of the experts on this forum that I've had the privilege of talking to that steered me in the right direction, pushed me to take responsibility for my own happiness & personal development, gave me a 2x4 when I needed and shook me/woke me up when I needed it.
Life is truly great and a sin to waste, always remember that, never lose sight of that.
My change is actually something I have learned here already but bears repeating. I refuse to be afraid of anything in 2010..or afterwards.
-Not afraid to confront adversity. -Not afraid to confront what I feel is wrong. -Not afraid to push myself out of my comfort zone. -Not afraid to challenge myself at work. -Not afraid to love again. -Not afraid of being afraid.
I will continue to focus on the blessings in my life. I will try to detach more and stay consistent. I will not be so reactive - calm, cool, collected is the way to go. I will not feel sorry for myself, because I have too much to be thankful for. I will try to bust up the potential A. I will set boundaries. I will remember that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Me: 34 H: 34 DD: 3 M: 8 yrs H moved out Oct. 2008, "not happy" "don't know what I want" "will always love you, but not in love with you" PA Bomb: April 5, 2010
I will stop being reactive and be proactive. I will no longer react to every little thing my H does or says. It is not healthy and I am not going back there.
I will live my life as if I knew everything was going to be alright in the end. For much of the year I deprived myself of the music, books, movies, things I really enjoy just because the thought of my Sitch was always uppermost in my mind. I will live my life as a "normal" person. Only much more enlightened by virtue of my experience, of course
As I sit here and eat the last of the X-Mas cookies: I WILL find a balance within myself. I WILL continue to detach. I WILL get in better shape physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Hope everyone has a safe and Happy New Year!
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
-I will rid myself of Co-dependency -I will build my self esteem -I will address my sitch in a Calm, Cool, Controlled manner -I will spend more time with my precious children -I will try NEW things -I will do at least one new thing/idea each month -I will be assured, God willing, that I will be fine regardless of how my sitch resolves
DD
H50 W44 M17 yrs S15 D11 D10 Bomb 4/09 Trial separation/moved out 9/09 Moved back in 12/29/09
- I will focus on my d8 to make sure she this D affects her as little as possible. She is the MOST important thing to me right now. - I will be thankful for what I have - I will seek forgiveness for the things I have done wrong in the past. - I will work to correct my failings. Co-dependency, lack of self esteem, judgments, criticism and anger. - I will get into better physical and mental shape. - I will be impeccable with my word - I will not take things personally - I will not make assumptions - I will always do my best
- I will become the man that I should be.
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
I don't celebrate New Year's, don't believe in luck, good or bad, but I am always keeping before me goals...so in that respect I will join in on this...
One big plan is going all out to celebrate my 30th anniversary...
This time 5 years ago my H had recently dropped the bomb on me so I missed out on all the plans I had for my 25th (actually spent it alone and crying)
I will continue with my self improvement, my communication skills, my maintaining GAL...
I will try and keep my personal anxiety out of my relationship...
I will work on being more healthy as I have not been as focused on that since H came home (not that being depressed and not being able to eat was any healthier!)
Most of all I will maintain my independance and my personal happiness that I had never realized I had lost in my marriage...
And I will never forget to show love and respect to my H...and love my children with all my heart...counting my blessings for having them all in my life!
1. I will not react to my W's venom when she talks on the phone 2. I will stay calm, composed, cheerful,and confident when talking with my W 3. I will continue to be a good father to my boys and maintain our phone schedule. 4. I will try to do more GAL activities to avoid sinking in depression 5. I want to be mentally and physically strong, at peace with everything I've done to save my M.
JR09
Me:44 WAW:43 Children S13,S11,S7 Married 17 yrs W left JUN 08 W filed JAN 09 D proceedings dismissed AUG 09 W refiles 1 MAR 11
