Wife wants best of both worlds

[MHL]

I can't recommend a time, that is up to you. Have you read DR yet? Michele sites cases where there has been infidelity for years and the marriage survives.

I say use the family time, absolutely, 100%, Fight for your marriage, don't give up. She has not told the kids and I think the more you guys do as a family the more she will feel guilty about what she is doing. You know your wife, is this the woman you married or the alien? Remember the A's never last.

I totally broke up my W's second affair by contacting the OM's W and she caught them redhanded in bed. That sent my wife to rock bottom and she is climbing back up.

If you want her back, fight for her but you have to do what works and what you have been doing is not working. You got to do some deep soul searching here and ask yourself this....Would I rather be right in my principles and be without her the rest of my life or do I want to swallow my pride, principles, whatever and one day have her back in my arms again and have the type of marriage that most people never even dream of?

Personally I am going for the later, I think you want that too. Look at the positives things, remember keep a Positive Mental Attitude!!
I am leaving work in a minute and will check back in later tonight. I am spending New Year's with my kids and will be at home. HANG IN THERE.