If there were not an OM, you might could progress differently. However, your wife is not the person you married right now. Do not think moving back in is going to set you back. If anything, it is going to set back her affair.
M:38 H:42 T:20 M:19 D:18 S:17 MLC: Sometime in 2007 OW Bomb 1: 12/28/07 OW Online relationship 2: Spring 2009 Told him I wanted D: May 10, 2009 D final: 07/09/11