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(((Gardener)))

Originally Posted By: Gardener
Tell him, Serenity, by all means. Think of what it would mean to him as a Pastor to hear this.


He may think I am driving the same train as my H...

I shared it here and on my blog but to actually go to him in person?

Hell you are right he would probably love to hear it. grin


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(((Serenity)))

You HAVE come a long way! I am sure you are right that it was a test and you passed with flying colors! smile

I love the way you compare yourself with OW and see yourself as such a treasure... just as you are! I have learned to do that too to overcome those moments when your self-esteem feels so trashed from the A... You are amazing! smile

If he didn't leave wondering WTH he is doing with that lost soul when he has such a treasure in his wife, he is still on the crazy train, that's for sure! wink

Keep staying strong... you continue to be an inspiration!

Oh, and btw... I DID see the moon last night, it was beautiful!

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Sernity,
Originally Posted By: Serenity13
Hell you are right he would probably love to hear it. grin
You bet he would! This is his life, his ministry, his calling!
We all need to hear and to know when what we do - are meant to do - has worked, has had an effect, has touched someone's life!


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"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac


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(((Rocked)))

Thank you for your kind words...I have to build myself up everyday otherwise I find myself wallowing in muck...I used to rely on other people to do it and I have now learned to do it for me smile

I am so glad someone else saw that moon - Yes it was beautiful!

I keep hearing from others about being an inspiration and I think that is one of the kindest things anyone could ever say to me...I sure don't feel like it...Somedays I still feel so lost and then I come here and see just how far I have come...Doesn't take the "lostness" away but it sure makes me feel better lol smile


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(((Gardener)))

I don't do speaking face to face well anymore so I printed out what I wrote on my blog and will give it to him Sunday...

At least he will truly know what a difference he has made in my life.

Thank you my friend. smile


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Still here and following Serenity, and great to hear you doing great smile.

oh, just a word on the OP comparison thingy, better to move away from that sooner rather than later. WAS would never see your point of view, it's either they see something you don't, you're shallow, "it's not about looks/ height/ character/ boob size/ penile size/ eye color/ intelligence etc" (delete where appropriate). They're BENEATH you period. Doesn't matter if you're Danny De Vito and they look like Brad Pitt; you're penniless and they're rich.

I know I certainly found the world a much better place once I cleared my thoughts on that one. I wasn't entirely joking in another post when I said the best response when a WAS drops you the ILY crumb out of nowhere is to say "Yep, and I love me too". If you think you found your soulmate and Mr/Ms Perfect, go for it! I'm letting someone else(s) find me - the lucky sod! Part and parcel of detaching lol.


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Deep ~

Thank you my friend...

I know you are correct and I shouldn't compare myself to her...

It does make me feel better though especially on days when my self-esteem & self-respect is shot.

However you are correct, I need to move past that as well. smile

Another step forward for me in the new year. grin


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Plus you like metal wink

You shot up 5 levels in what cutter likes :P

Take care Serenity.


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(((Cutter)))

That I do smile

And the compliment goes right back to you my friend.

Anything fun planned for tonight?

I am fixing to get off work a little early and go shopping for something to wear tonight.

I am going to Church for a couple of hours then a party afterwards...

Don't plan on drinking though since there are to many crazies on the road.

Thanks to Kara, I have been shoe shopping and loving it I may add...Found a pair of you know what pumps, black, 4 inches high which makes me stand at 6'2 - Now I need an outfit to go around my shoes...I am loving life today and my plan is to go out tonight and enjoy it to the fullest! smile smile smile


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Coach ~

If you are around, both boys are home now and the boundaries were followed, I grilled older S (I know but I had to verify and I did it kindly - My sister said I should ask H however we know he lies all the time) and he couldn't even pinpoint a time his Dad was on the phone with her...

There were no pictures around of the 2 of them, she never "graced" them with her presence etc...

You told me to acknowledge that once all was said and done...

Any thoughts on how to word that without being sappy like I am prone to do?

Thank you smile


May All Who Seek To Take My Life
Be Put To Shame And Confusion;
May All Who Desire My Ruin
Be Turned Back In Disgrace.
~Psalm 40:14~
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