GIMA, same question to you. When you lay down your plan, will you ask whether she wants to work on the M or will you just say "I've made a decision to move on." ??
See my long winded post above. But, it isn't a R talk unless you are talking about where are we, where are we going, will you work on the M. Simply b/c it involves your M does not make the discussion a R talk. I got tripped up on this for a while.
Telling her you have made a decision to move forward given that she refuses to work on the M is not a R talk. It is you leading. And it is done calmly, with no anger or resentment. Very matter of factly. Strength, not "I'm pissed off/hurt, is what you want to project. If you don't want me, ok. But here's the reality of where this is going.
So, NO, I will not ask my W if she wants to work on the M. She has made that very clear. She knows where I stand and she can always let me know if she changes her mind. But I cannot change it for her and will not wait any longer.
