Dusk at Dawn.

[chatterbug]

So, Cutter, what do YOU think?

Well Mindfull. I think that I do not answer to her anymore. Once she decided to have an open marriage. I closed the door.

What am I going to do about it. Nothing. I do not see any reason to meet with her to discuss several loose ends. Do you?

What are the loose ends? Why do YOU think you don't need to meet with her? Are you not cutting your nose off to spite your face? Do you see this as a test?

We have two loose ends. 1 sign seperation papers. Which are at the IM's house. All she needs to do is go over there and sign them. Then selling of the house starts on April 1st. And the second one is transfer retirement savings. Which require her to send me a piece of paper. Then I transfer them. Thats it. No other loose ends.

I think I will contact IM and meet up with him to verify that the seperation papers are still the latest one. Verify that I have signed them.

I'm not sure I understand. If you have already signed separation papers then what is there to discuss about them?
Nothing to discuss between you and I Nor between ladybug and I But hey maybe she does not remember the conversations and writting them out and saying that the IM would be the keyholder of these papers. Perhaps it was a foggy day that day.

As always. I am open to suggestions or paths that I have not noticed.

Did you make it clear to Ladybug at the beginning that you would have no contact with her while the A was going on?

Yes in my Plan B letter. I stated. All contact is via IM. Unless she has ended all contact with OM and wishes to talk about our R. Or its life and death.

Cutter, did you make those horoscopes up? Amazing if you did not! They rarely line up with actual events!

You are very strong to continue on your NC. I do have a q though.. aren't the conditions for contact from the WAS are to discuss either ending the R or reconciling? Just clarifying here, but how will you know if she wants to do either of those? I mean does the IM check with her?

I answered that one up there. But if its D. She just has file a year from Sept 15th. I get it in the mail sign it and thats that. If she wants to reconcil then she will let me know. Its my choice on what to do then.

BTW I don't know the rules for your area but if the separation agreement has been signed, then is there anything else to do--is there a designated length of time that the SA is good for?
Do you have to be separated a certain length of time before divorce?

If she is in the A, her thinking is cloudy and as you know, it is worthless to talk to her! she no sense makes!

I agree 100% worthless to talk to her

Is IM some kind of lawyer?

IM is a mutual friend who is friends to both of us. He contacts neither. We must contact him.

Where did you get those horoscopes? I'd like to get mine too.

http://www.thestar.com/horoscopes/article/743951--horoscopes-for-thursday-december-31