I was devastated at the time. I was frustrated that nothing seemed to work in my M. It was b/c of a specific problem that H has been working on this year.
I found the techniques mostly helpful for myself not always with my H or our M/R. I learned this year mostly how to stand up for myself and the things I want and how to pull away from anyone who might prefer to destroy my peace.
At this point, my H and I remain separated and now without contact. We spent a year being separated and seeing each other - some things got much better and others worse. It has not been effective in remedying our problems. About two weeks ago I decided that we needed a real break from each other after one of his worst episodes.
I don't blame either of us for where we are at. Sometimes people grow at different paces and it is counterproductive to move forward together. Where it will end I am not predicting,but I will continue to ask for support in taking better care of myself this year. I need to maintain a healthier perspective of our situation and hopefully will find a path that breaks through our negative interactive pattern.
Certain information has come to my attention recently which give me pause in my own life. Mostly I want a M where I can be myself and enjoy the company of my partner. My goal this year: be a better me, take better care of me, and welcome the better people that have come into my life. Thanks All!
