Helen of Troy, That was one of the most beautiful Eulogys I have heard. I hope you have the opportunity to share that with others.
Jack, Thanks. She was Greek and I couldn't use her real name…but she was beautiful in all ways. I don’t know when there will be a funeral…her sister said they are waiting until January to make plans. But I want to say something if they ask; I may break down in tears, but that will be okay...they are part of being real.
Originally Posted By: OldPilot
I hope YOU will be ok.
Yes, I am and Thank You. It feels so strange. We only knew each other a few years. We talked all of the time, but my life goes on...her death doesn't change my bills or my job or my future career plans--though she affected those. Her husband is left with a large debt--she had a gambling problem and ran up credit card debt through his crisis. She leaves two grown sons, one who could not handle seeing her in the hospital in a coma. I love my mother and when she dies I will be devastated and it will bring many changes to my life. But I don’t think it will be any more devastating.
Originally Posted By: Grace_O
we need to cherish our friends. And, we need to honor them by leading amazing lives after they have gone.
Yes. But at the same time I would not want her to live well for me; I’d want her to live well for her. She would be honoring me by doing it for her. I’ve thought about this a lot in the last several weeks. Her husband loved her and yet he was not living at home and we suspected he’s been living around the corner from her in the OW’s house. Will he blame himself?
I hope not. He is broken and has not been a good husband in recent years. But it is not his fault that she was unable to detach or let go. I imagine people asking him to honor her and straighten out his life. I hope he can straighten himself out too—though several of us believe that this will literally kill him. But my hope for him is that he honors her by living a good life for his own sake. That is what I am doing. Thanks
