Thanks. I usually always think about things overnight and sleep on before I decide to act. So - I will give this all some thought first as suggested. I agree it is a double edged sword. Not sure what the right thing is about anything. To be honest - I have been absorbing a lot of advice from multiple sources, books, etc and I take it all in, and then decide what seems to be right for me and my situation. I know there are no right or wrong answers to a lot of this, and I've gone along with my gut feel on most of it as its evolved. I think I knew early on that leaving the house at her request was "not right", and would ultimately hurt my younger daughter the most, so I know I did the right thing there by staying in the house. I am so happy to be exchanging thoughts with you all - it helps me feel like I am not alone in this ordeal - and I've been fighting the loneliness for months now. Thanks for all your comments - they truly help me get my thoughts straight and open me up to other options. I'll be back on later - to all - have a Very Happy New Year!


Me: 48
W: 47
M: 25 years T: 30 years
S24, D21, D11
Bomb dropped: "Not in love with you" 10/09
Separated Feb 2010